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My sweet husband isn't always that sweet!!!!? |
Travel Info Hi,all,my husband is so loving and sweet,when we are anywhere anyone can tell how much he do loves me,but not on the presence of any of his family,when they are around he is totaly different person he ignores me,and he becomes scared of any tiny winy gesture that might shows that he loves me,or even care for me,for example once I was sick and I was alone at home ,I called him so he paniced and left work and came right away and was scared to death however it wasn't that bad,other time his family was visiting us,and I was also sick he left the room on the morning and sit with them on the reception and didn't come to check even once for a complete 5 hours. I already confornt him and he admit and appologize but I wasn't seeking for an appology,so I wonder if anyone can tell me what should I do about it. Thanks inadvance Travel Tips well,I'll have to disagree with most of the above answers,I'll try to be more realistic here,Frankly if such a situation happened to me I would not be able to forget it,plus you said "for example" so that's mean that similar situations happens.so I won't go with the opinion of "let it go and think about the good stuff you already have" ,that is not practically useful,I mean you can't live your whole life feeling that its OK to be ignored on the presence of your husband's family as he is good with you in general,that isn't even healthy for your relation with them as of course you won't be happy if any of them is visiting cause that automatically means you will feel uncomfortable whilst,however that doesn't mean you have to blame or argue with your hubby about it!!! I mean apparently your hubby isn't ignoring you on purpose its may be he is just feeling that he is deeply in love with you and afraid to look like a silly teenager in front of his parents or any of his family members,so its ok for him to feel this way however its not ok for him to keep treating you this way,so what you need to do is to help him get over it,you said that he apologize so he admit that he does have a problem so talk to him frequently about why is he acting this way and try to figure it out with him and help him change it and be patient I mean the change wont happen in a night. May Allah grant you the best. Others He is in love with you , that is sure. He loves you, hes just shy. Enjoy it and don't worry about the little things. Nobodies perfect. As silly as this may sound, he does not want to appear weak to his family. In Eygpt, a man who dotes over a woman appears weak to his family. He does not want to lose their respect. You might be a whiney wife. If he is so loving and sweet, why do you complain about him? Sounds like his family is the problem. Maybe he thinks they will stop loving him if he doesn't act a certain way? And he knows you will never stop loving him? You should ask his family what their view is on how he acts to you around them. If they don't see a problem...then they ARE the problem. How to fix that...I don't know...perhaps seeking a counselor to help your husband deal with this issue. Because it doesn't seem like you are happy with his contradicting behavior. He needs to know it isn't acceptable to you. Take this from an Egyptian man. The main measure is when both of you are alone. Other attitude you can call him traditional or conservative, but in both cases he apologized. That means he is a respectful person and it was the right thing to tell him that you worried about that mistake when he left you for 5 hours alone without asking. This was a mistake which he may have an excuse for, but the rest is fine. Usually the men who doesn't show much love and passion in front of others are the conservative type who can have a deep feeling for their spouse. I hope you don't think about his feeling in front of others and forgive him for the mistake that he left you alone while ill. He loves you and care for you and this is rare now. Good luck |
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