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Do you think a marriage with an american woman and an egyptian man would work? |
Travel Info Have known each other for over a year and get along awesome, Think it is possible to actually last? Travel Tips Holy crap I hope so, since I'm doing this soon. When the intentions are serious, you do have to do a LOT of talking. As you start to work out the details of the contract, you do get to poke and prod at a lot of questions. I ask questions constantly anyways, something he takes in stride and avenges upon me later. Children are a big issue between us, both of us have religions that don't really compromise on the children issue. We're working to find a compromise that works for us, which is difficult since neither of us can turn to our respective advisors on the issue. (Both have voiced their opinion on the matter and that's how we figured out the lack of compromise). Do meet his family. If not in person, then certainly at least over the phone or Skype. Serious intentions usually lead to him being rather proud to introduce you to his family, chances are he's done very little other than talk about you anyways. Just remember his parents aren't all THAT different from yours, be polite and respectful and attentive. His siblings aren't all that different from yours, his sister(s) probably have a penchant for shopping and his brother(s) probably have a yen for soccer. Egyptian men are very private, what goes on between you two stays between you two. He'll probably be bothered if you two have a tiff and you go off to dish to your best friend about what a pain he is being. He would rather you deal with him directly, keep things between you, and solve the problem. While he's proud of you, he probably won't "show you off" so to speak. His friends may be a little uncomfortable around you until you are married to him, and they'll probably always be a little distant. Warm...but politely distant. There will always be a language barrier. No matter how fluent he is in English or you in Arabic, sometimes you'll just butt up against a wall of "Inability to explain correctly what you are thinking."If it seems like he's totally clueless, before chewing his head off, stop and ask him if he understands what you're trying to say. Never ask him in a condescending way, but sincerely. He will not tell you when he's scared. Very Macho kind of guys. I didn't figure out mine was scared of meeting my father until the 6th time he had backed out of meeting him. Rather than call him out on being scared, I asked him to pick a date to meet my family and made sure that my fanily knew about hima nd where he is from as much as I made sure he knew as much as I could explain about my family. (We do put the "fun" in "dysfunctional") If two or more Egyptian men have to accomplish a task, even if it's something like picking a flavor of ice cream, it will turn into a discussion that puts the whole mission on hold while they debate things out. This is usually remedied by reaching in between them while they talk, picking up the Ben & Jerry's Coffee Heath Bar Crunch, and informing them that you are going to the checkout counter now if they would like to join you. They just feel the need to talk things out and make sure everyone is okay with whatever decision they come to. They do want to try to please everyone, which is sweet, but takes too long for me to appreciate while buying ice cream. I have heard it said that Egyptian men love fully, and forever. There really isn't much in the way of halfway with them and they have surprisingly romantic personalities. They can be very poetic, very sweet and very affectionate. If they are devoutly Muslim they can be very affectionate without breaking the rules. My habibi likes to play with my hair. It's probably not technically acceptable to a very conservative Muslim, but with any faith there is a degree of personal interpretation of the rules. He's not pouncing on me and doing any bodice-ripping, so I'm not overly concerned that he's up to illicit things while he scratches my head. Things can be worked out, the differences that is, but make sure that you do talk about them and you do come to clear defined decisions on them. Never ever get married just because you are in love. But Never ever get married without it. Others Love is blind. It does not see race. have that discussion with all those relevant questions. Like how many kids, what religion, how would you bring them up, if they want boyfriends etc., who cooks, cleans, takes care of finances, have to go through your expectations regardless of what cultures that's what makes a successful marriage. But in addition to this specifics, does he expect to move back to his country, have you met his family - and that they're accepting - family is a big deal with Egyptians - make sure he's not married either in Egypt and just wanting his papers to stay in the country kwim?! good luck!!! is it a race issue or a long distance issue? is there difference in religion (muslim v. judeo christian). It really seems like a mtter of desire to work at it. compartibility... to me is the big issue... loving is one thing staying together for eternity is another... if u have been in a serious crisis and out successfully, then i'd say go for it... but if no crisis yet... u might need to reconsider... my people say the best time to know a people is when they are in a crisis... think about that... It depends on what you have planned for the future. What your goals and his are. Like are you willing to live in Egypt or is he willing to live with you in America? How important are your beliefs and his? Families? In the end it all comes down to LOVE. It conquers all. All you need is LOVE. why not? I have a chilean friend married to an agypcian, living in Cairo. You have to know about his religion that is so dogmatic and they really live and practice what Coran says. You must know a little what he thinks about which religion the children will be educated. You 麓 ll probably will have to deal with prejudice existing between both countries. They are good persons. It won t be easy but not impossible. |
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