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Hi my frens, it's Happy Fathers Day this 17th June....? |
Travel Info As a tribute to our fathers, what are the memorable moments that really makes you feel your dad is a hero or opposite...if you don't mind sharing your moments... thanx!! And not forgetting to those whose is father themselves and great help from spouse to raise a family! *As the youngest, my dad and i were never that close as our age gap is too far (60 + yrs). He is too poor or couldn't take care of family of 11 when he works as a rubber tapper to make ends meet during his younger days but i still cherish the moment he use to cut sugar cane for me at the backyard of our old village home until the time he no longer can walk because of old age at 92....that was his last year.* Travel Tips Daniel, unfortunately I do not have anything 'nice' to say about my father as I was a victim of biased treatments throughout my childhood. It's lucky that I do not hate him considering what I have been through. And now, my story: I grew up in a family of only 2 kids (a boy and a girl). I am of oriental ethnic and you know what that means: boys are favoured over girls. From the moment I could understand 'things', I knew that my parents particularly my father practise favouritism. He only showered toys and liberty to my brother. For instance, my brother could watch his favourite programs anytime but I can't even touch the TV (he specifically forbade me and locked the tv). When there's a fight between my bro and I, he will punish me more because he said I'm the elder so I should be more giving to my bro. When I did something wrong, he will whip me but when my bro did wrong, he will just be let go with a warning. My father worked shift during my childhood and so we had a nanny to look after us. When it was his off day, my bro gets to stay at home with my father but my father will send me away to my nanny. He said he doesn't want me around. Is there any reason why? Once, during a big argument, I let out my true feelings and you know what my father said? He said defiantly that he's only showering his love for his (only) son the same way he was treated by my grandma. You see, my father is also an only son in a family of 4 girls. And if I can't accept it, I can move out! What can I do? All through my childhood, I have to endure the agony of biased treatments. In spite of all that, I do suppose that I have him to 'thank' to because without all those hardship, I would not have grown up mentally strong. I became more matured, more tolerant and more independent than my bro. That's why all my teachers and close friends are proud of me. I was able to walk through the rain and see the silver lining of a dark cloud. The only close family I've got is my mom. She's aware of my feelings but she can't say or do anything against my father. I was angered during those younger days and thought that she doesn't love me too. But it turns out that she wanted me to become strong too and self-reliant. She did sacrifice and showed much concern like when I was hospitalised and needed blood transfusion, she stayed with me and cried hugging me. I will never forget that moment. As for my father, I can't help that he is the one who gave me life (as my mom said) and we as their children doesn't get to choose who our parents are. In any case, our relationship has been much improved since I started working. So I will just do whatever I can and to the best of my ability to be a filial daughter to both. Others what is frens?? I just have a short memories of my dad. Whenever I miss him, the moments with him will plays like a movie in my mind, the moments of happiness, sadness.. When he hits me with a cane, the way i treated him badly which made me regrets and sad and the moments we went out together. I had happy moments with my family at the younger age. My family, included my grandpa, grandma, dad, mum, bro & I always go to travel to Penang, Genting & KL. We went to Hattyai (Thai) & Singapore too. So when I grew older, at the age of 9-11, I followed my dad to do business at Penang & KL during school holidays. Family trip? No, no more because my family is busy earning money for a better life.. It's brings good but a loneliness too... And nightmare came at the age of 12. This thing strikes the whole life of my family and I. This is the 1st time my dad brought me & my bro on plane to China, but it's not a happy trip. We kept arguing for small matters, personally I more prefer a trip to Genting when I was small. I was hit seriously for the "unsatisfied" UPSR results and a few car accidents reaveled that there's a tumor in my dad's brain which caused him easily get angry, fainted and effects on right side of body. After 3 years of treatments included 5 operations (the tumor grew again after a surgery of taking it off), radiology & chinese medicine treatment at brain, my father at last collapsed and never wake up anymore. The doctor said, he didn't show any will to live and gave up on his life. So... This is the story of my dad... I am sorry to hear that Shorie. My father is the best dad ever ..... my dad is a gentle person who is soft spoken and always take care of his family, i wish him the best in health don't give him any thing save your money just say a thak you to him he will be happy for not spend it save and give him some he will happy |
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