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Why do some filipino's?

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My wife's 2 brothers have a wife and family of their own.
Why do they think that I am suppose to be their personal bank account? I understand that its hard to find work in the Philippines. My wife is very loyal to me, She tell me everything about what's happening when I am not around and her relatives don't like it.
I helped her relatives numerous times with difficult situations.
It seems as if they don't try hard enough to think of ways to find their own income.
My wife told them on several occasions that I am not their personal bank account.
Why are they so hard of understanding? Why do they act so uneducated? Why do they think that I am responsible for their life? Why do they act like fish in a fish tank?
My why is very kind and generous but she is no fool.

I don't know how some of you will respond to this but I am ready for the worst to come.

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Unfortunately my friend, the road to hell is paved with good intent. I should know, I can feel the heat already. You could do as we do, and that is after allowing for our own personal living expenses and outgoings and (in your case) leisure wants (we don't earn enough for leisure pursuits at the moment) we can work out what we can afford to give them and when we can give it to them. This way, priority of looking after your own is in tact and theoretically they should still be happy (hopefully). Just tell them straight that's this is the way it's has to be and if they are unhappy with this they don't have to actually have to accept your money. The problem with charity is the beneficiary becomes dependent. You could use the money you give to them to start a business. Good luck.
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would not have a clue
strong family ties has its pros and cons.**

big chuck you got it. congrats.
I have a friend here from the Phillipines, and Guess what???? She is in the same boat as you! Has already bought them a house there, and put 3 of her siblings to college. They think we have unlimited income here, they actually live in paradies and dont know it!
welcome to our world!

hi, big p!
My wife always sends her parents money to the
Philippines. The income there is not as much so they need every assistance they can get. They can work hard all they want, but maybe they just too unlucky or not in a good environment to achieve better higher paying opportunities. I think if you just send them little by little it will be alright, but you if you start sending them plenty every month, they would expect to have plenty of money from you very often.

My wife has stopped sending too much money to her parents because she does feel as though they are counting on her for money. So she send them money ever so often now.
I understand what you mean..some of our kababayan really are suckers. If you start helping them, they will think that you're pocket is the cash register. The best way to turn them down is to make them understand that you too need the money.. that you're saving it for your children. Tell them politely but firmly. This has to stop. If you can't tell them yourself, ask your wife to do it since they are her relatives.

Don't give them anymore..help them but not in giving them the money. You know what, they just needed you to refuse so they will make "banat ng buto".