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Travel Info Leaving everyone they knew behind and starting their lives all over again? If so how was the experience. I'm about to be 20 and I'm thinking of going to get my masters in psychology in California. Although I really want to go I don't want to suffer because I know it will be expensive any suggestions? Travel Tips Hi there, I'm a 23 yr old female and I haven't done it yet but I'm in the same transition as you. In about 2 months I'm moving to New York from San Diego by myself. I worked my butt off and saved plenty of money, including money incase things don't fall through the way I'd like them to. I've always been a pretty social person and have an open mind which makes it easy for me to relate to people and get to meet new ones. I would say just focus on establishing yourself there first, stay focused on what you moved there for, and friends will eventually happen, which is your least of worries. In your case study your commute routes, your neighborhoods, the people, the schools, and inform yourself. Don't show up clueless. You'll be fine. Good luck! Others I moved to Texas when I was 20. Before I moved, I lined up a job and a place to live. It took a while before I was comfortable there and made friends that I could trust. You say about leaving everyone you know, but then about it being expensive. Are you worried about not knowing anyone or that you will have to support yourself? When I was 19 I moved from a small Iowa town to Chicago. Talk about a big change. At first it freaked me out and I kept to myself, but after I started working, I met friends there and got to know the customers. Slowly but surely, I started talking with the neighbors and so forth. I was close enough that my girlfriends were still able to come and see me on the weekends. Eventually though, I returned back to my hometown. That is were my support network and my closest friends are. Now, I have done it again, moved from Iowa to Kentucky. I have met some cool ppl here. Sometimes I just want to go back home but the thing I keep telling myself is "I cant leave yet, because I havent even given this place a chance." and truth be told, if it comes down to it, I know where I came from and where I can go home. When I was almost 21, I moved away from Los Angeles and up to Alaska. My whole family was in L.A. and I knew no one in Alaska. I only knew I wanted to get out of town and start over. I've been here 8.5 years now and I love every minute of it. When you make a radical move like that... things seem to fall into place easier as long as you're excited about it. The adrenaline factor kicks in. I'm leaving by myself in florida I just started my life all over again, studying hard to get a bachelors in nursing, I don't have many friends yet but is worth it ! . I used to live in boston. well in boston I spent many difficult times during high school. now I feel better because all those people whose hurted me don't matter. You will be happier in a place where you can enjoy and at the same time go to college for make one of your dreams a reality. I did that many times... my life is an endless journey. It seems though that where I am now is where I will be for the rest of my life... and it's okay, because although I still miss my friends and family in two other different continents, it's slowly (after 11 years) sinking into my full consciousness that this is my life now. You are your own person... since you were small, you were trained (I hope) to make a choice. This is one of those things in life that you can't make up your mind depending on what other people's experiences are. Ask yourself what do you want in life... what do you have now? What does it take for you to make a change? Are you willing to go for it and regret, but at least you tried... or are you going to just keep on dreaming about it- and regret that you never even tried? Suffering can come in many forms... it's your choice which kind you want to endure. As they say:... "it will get ugly first before it gets better." Imagine yourself as a 60 year old- will you smile and think to yourself- what an exciting life I led- no regrets!"... or will it be "I played it safe.... Oh, I wished I at least tried!" well lets see....I grew up in the wide open spaces of Wyoming with most people speaking english, practicing freely whatever they believed and believing in equality for the most part...not to mention both sexes mingling generally in everyday life.... I went from that to half way around the planet to where hardly anyone spoke english(or not very well) culture was so very different....and segregation was a kick in the *** the hardest part from the whole experience was the utter feeling of being alone...no family, no close friends, everyone saw me as "exotic" or something and so wouldnt approach me that often(plus my early shy personality)so it meant I was often alone even in a room full of ladies. they would all be speaking arabic and i would be wondering how did i manage to get from where i had been before to where i was now...still wonder that sometimes... anyhow, i imagine you will feel lonely at first but at least you dont have the language barrier to overcome. just try to be socialable to those that approach you(be careful though of course) and eventually you will have friends to keep you company and share the experience with. expect to suffer to some degree...lol...its a fact of life....things are generally more expensive then we account for...hardly ever are they cheaper then we expect. |
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