What is "Namus"?

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Is marrying a foreigner who is a divorced woman who has two children considered a violation of that Turkish man's (the one who wants to marry her) honor? Can you also please reply to another question in my profile. Cok Tessukur edirem

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well, I reckon you are a divorcee with two children who's about to get married to a Turkish man... and apparently the family of the man has some objections.

To a great extent (not only confined to Turkish society but almost for all the countries & cultures e.g. Latinos, Slavians etc alonside the Muslim societies) this act is -thogh not immoral- hard to absorb by the society.

The parents & family of the man must have a social circle to which they must keep their dignity (their NAMUS with this sense).This is where ancient morals of humanity is involved.

Sooooo.. this is the MAN's problem actually, not yours.
But the two kids concerned ..are they ready to embrace such a step father? that's what YOU have to concentrate on.
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no idea
It is a private relation between them.

Namus is a concept about being a human in a society to obey the rules accepted by most of the people there.

Bir sey degil.
depends on their brain,life style , education. in turkey unfortunately for many people *namus* is between the legs. why would you want a man like that anyway who wont love you for who u r. if he is big mummas boy he ll go with what his mummy wants. get a man not a big mummas boy
Unfortunately, her boyfriend's parents have old brains.

I suggest her boyfriend to ignore his family and marry.Also each Turkish family want a child from their children.So when they have a child, her boyfriend's family will forgive him.
Old brained Turkish/Muslim men, usually want a woman who didn't lose her virginity.Also marrying with a woman who has children, come difficult to them..But as I understood from ur other question, luckly her boyfriend isn't old brained.The problem is with his family..As I said before, he must ignore them.
*** If he is in a old-brained society, some men can look him in a different way, unfortunately..

Hope all the things will get well for them..
It depends on that man's family's worldview really. You can't generalize. My sister was divorced, and now she's married to a guy who had never been married before. There was not a problem with his family when they decided to get married.

Good luck to you.
"Namus" literally means "Honour" as you say there is no dishonour in marrying a divorced woman with two children. The provisio being dependent on which part of Turkey and how cultured or educated the person and his family is. In the big cities and the vast majority of Turkey there should be no problem at all. Rather, than "namus" the prohibitive thing is backward traditions or customs which really has nothing to do with "namus". So it really depends on your boyfriend and his family how educated or cultured they are and which part of Turkey they live. Now I know the above sounds like a generalistion (and it is) but I do not want to sound elitist or class orientated, that's just the way life is in Turkey.

As more Turks get better education and culture living conditions and life style will change (as it has done so over the decades). It is more dramatic or should I say noticeable for people that have lived overseas for decades and each time you go back for a holiday you see significant advances and improvements. I'll give you an example from my own experience we went to Turkey for a holiday and landed in Ankara (on the 12 September, 1980). There was only one TV channel that operated from 6.00pm - 10.00pm when we went back in 1992 there were something like 20 free to air channels and cable TV as well running 24 Hours a day. In 1980 people sold cigarrettes on the black market if you could find any, in 1992 you could buy what ever brand you wanted from the corner storner.

Really at the end of the day it is dependent on you and your boyfriend his parents will not be around for ever and you should not really worry about what other Turks may or may not think. Marriage (other than love) is like any partnership or business partners necessarily have to work things out, it's not easy going all the way through people have good and bad times the important thing is committment to that relationship by both parties.

That's all from Dr Phil :) Sorry about that I get carried away sometimes :)