Turkish culture help needed!?

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My husband is Turkish, and is older.this is my problem,I was at the computer the other day when an IM popped on screen for my husband it was from a girl from his past, she sent hearts, and said something in turkish. I responded sorry He is not here now, but I will let him know when he gets home. He came home and I told him she Im'd him, she also asked who I was and I wrote back one word wife, she responded I must be very sweet for him to marry me I said thank you, he is a real sweety, and said I had to go, He is angry with me for responding and came to me and said I was being jelous, NOT, I just let him know this girl Im'd him, now he is not talking, even though I spent 1/2 the day at the lawyers trying to get his immigration straightened out..whats up? Am I wrong?? Is he wrong? and what do I do to fix this?
Placed this here in travel, because I really want a response from the Turkish population..Thanks!

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Kathy,

I think the roles should be changed if anything you should be angry at him, not the other way around. If he is married to you why is he receiving hearts from another lady even if it's an old friend. I have lots of old friends men and women and believe me they do not send me hearts.

I just hope he is not using you for Visa application ?? I don't mean to sound pessimisstic and it has been known to happen. Just my thoughts.

If it is not the visa thing, or he has not been caught out doing something he should not have been doing he has no reason to be angry at you. There should be no secrets in any relationship between husbands and wives. I am Turkish and my wife opens my mail, e - mail and anything else and I do the same with hers who ever is on the computer, we let each other know about the messages etc and there is no problem. his reaction is not a cultural thing believe me.
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i think you did the best thing.You shouldn't be pessimist so quickly.Maybe she is his childhood friend or one night girl...it shouldn't be a big deal,no worries.

ok i got it so it is just an im cuz you said "i'm his wife" ;) sometimes Turkish guys reacts in unusual ways it is normal that sometimes you can't understand him.
I have been to Turkey, studied the culture...I think is just a guy thing. I have one similar! I guess it depends on how you informed him about this? Based on the conversation you two had you did nothing wrong. But I do not think you should focus so much on who was wrong or who was right, more find out why we he got mad? Is there a reason he is turning this around on you and taking the focus on this woman?

My 2 cents...sorry I am not Turkish!
Excuse me but why is he mad?I think you didn't do something wrong. There is no reason to be mad like that for a long time..He had to tell you what was going on..This is not cultural, I think this is about personality. You are not sure why he married you? And do not be so upset..
I don't see how you did anything wrong. It's the same as picking up a ringing phone and a perfectly reasonable thing to do.
Kathy Kaura froum Houston! Oh no!
you can't be! LOL

your friend in Istanbul (the journalist one) sends you you his greetings....*LOL*
looks like someone is having a double life. have fun . that teaches you to be nice and not walking around give people mean words in their Qs.SEE karma got you. I HATE YOU!
bye